If you’re grieving the loss of a loved one, the holidays may likely be a very difficult time for you. I know they were (and still can be) for me. Even if you’re not actively grieving, reflecting upon cherished memories and traditions related to the holidays may trigger your grief to rise to the forefront. How could it not, when we are faced with endless reminders that our loved one is not with us physically during these times where our families and friends gather to celebrate. David Kessler says that “Holidays mark the passage of time in our lives. They are part of the milestones we share with each other and they generally represent time spent with family. This is exactly why the holidays are difficult to cope with when we are grieving. We miss our loved ones more than ever during this time. Holidays and family gatherings without our loved ones present magnify our loss. The sadness deepens and the loneliness can feel isolating.” For most of us grieving the death of a loved one, the grieving process is a time when we try to understand and re-evaluate ourselves and the world in light of the loss we experienced, as we learn …Read More
We are not who we were before our loved one transitioned. When our soul is ripped apart, we begin to re-create the next version of who we are, who we want to be. We step into our new self cautiously, with trepidation. But after some time, we begin to feel comfortable, lighter, more accepting of the way things are. And then, a few years down the road, maybe life throws some serious curve balls our way. Serious curve balls. That yet again, bring us to our knees. And we begin to re-create again, molding who this new version of our self will be. As we try, yet again, to hang on. To survive. We are constantly changing and re-creating who we are. But when we allow the seat of our soul to always remain rooted in us, then we are allowing expansion and light into all of these versions of us. We invite it in, we welcome it. Change is necessary. Change is growth. I am re-creating. Again. I don’t know exactly what this next version of me will look like. But I know that I will love her more than ever before. I know that she will be kinder, …Read More
In our human journey we wear many different hats and try on many versions of our Self. We might like some of those versions, discard others, search for new ones, and bring back new life into old comfortable ones…all in search of who we are and what will make us happy. My friend Jill visualizes these different aspects of our Self as Russian Matryoshka dolls, as all aspects of Self reside within the bodysuit that we call ME. Our grief journey is no different, as it lies within the human journey that we are on. So, there are many different versions or aspects of our Self woven throughout our grief journey. There is the version of Self who is angry, the version of Self who internalizes the pain, the version of Self who pretends to be strong for others, the version of Self who doubts, the version of Self who falls into self-pity, the version of Self who medicates to ease the pain. Additionally, there exists the version of Self who becomes a seeker, the version of Self who trusts, the version of Self who LOVES, the version of Self who searches for deeper meaning and understanding, the version of …Read More
Grief should not be avoided. It matters. It matters to you, the bereaved, and to us, the ones in Spirit. Not only is grief an expression of your love for us, but grief is the doorway to your soul. Place your trust in Creator God, in us, and in your highest true self. When you do so, you will be guided and healed in a way that allows for full expansion of yourself. Those soulful layers of yourself that are waiting to unfold, to blossom, into the shining light that you are. Into the love that you are. So, allow your tears. Allow your grief. Allow all of it. And then hand them to us. We got your back.Read More
This channel came through after a meditation regarding the parole hearing for the man that took Bryan’s life. “I know this feels like another arrow in your heart, but really its another opportunity for growth and understanding. It means nothing to me here, now – you know that already. But what you don’t know (remember) is that this was also part of the plan. The letting go is what is important for you now. Can you let go of this outcome, the pain you carry around it? The letting go will lead to forgiveness when you are ready. There Is no intervention here on matters such as this. Events will run their course, many as planned, and many with the free will influence in the mix. This decision to allow parole of the man who ended my life is such a small speck of dust on the camera lens of my life, of your life too. Really Mom, it brings me no pain whatsoever. So please do not let it bring you any. The best way you can honor me, all the moms – tell them this tonight – the best way to honor your loved ones here is …Read More
My teacher Sue Frederick explained that 2020, as a 22 year in numerology, has been a year that was all about getting us to transform. And WOW did we! Haven’t we transformed so many things in our lives? Our work environment, our social lives, our interpersonal relationships, our spiritual practices – so much was transformed for so many of us in this tumultuous year that we are leaving behind. For me personally, 2020 was a good year, but I know that this was not the case for many people. So many of us experienced the death of a loved one in 2020, or illness, lack of employment, decreased finances, lack of social interaction, depression, homelessness, and more. We will all be happy to put this calendar year behind us, I am sure. And while everything won’t change in an instant, we know that, perhaps slowly, life will return to some sort of normalcy, back to life as we knew it pre-2020. As we look to 2021, please know that this coming 5 year is one of expansion, adventure, expecting the unexpected. This will be a turning point year, we will have much freedom to explore, so you are advised to …Read More
Holidays sure do have a way of creeping up on you. If you’ve lost someone you love dearly, you know what I mean. I was on a plane coming home from Seattle this morning and out of nowhere, literally nowhere, I started to cry, even before the plane took off. I had not been sad, I had not even been thinking about the holidays or my son at that moment. I cried and I cried (as silently as I could and trying to hide behind my scarf) all the way to Boise. I just couldn’t stop. I haven’t cried like that in a long time. You see, there were just so many mothers and fathers and sons and daughters on the plane traveling to be with their families for Thanksgiving….I could feel that “family coming together” energy SO strongly and it was just too much for me, I guess. Finally, as the pilot announced our initial descent into Boise, the grandmotherly woman in the seat next to me touched my arm and said “I see you are in pain”. I nodded, tears streaming down my face. “Have you lost someone you love?” she asked? I nodded, and choked out the …Read More
We want you to understand that this was a choice you made when you were here. Your capacity to love is endless and you will feel it again in your life. Bryan knew that you could support him like no other. We know living with his physical death is more difficult than you thought it would be. Life is often difficult which is why some of us choose to stay here. Time is not relevant. You will see Bryan again, sooner than you think, and it will be glorious! He is glorious, and he is waiting for that day also. In the meantime, we want you to focus on the self, the journey, and prepare yourself. For the day is coming near that all hearts must choose. Choose love or choose fear. You and your friends are discovering the joy of pure love—that state of being that is pure bliss when you are filled with God, and unconditional love for all matter and all beings. Bryan is but one of those beautiful beings. Expand your love to include everyone. We know it is difficult. We know you miss him so. You will see him as you remember him, but your …Read More
There is a knowingness in silence…in stillness. Reach for the limitless of your potential in that quiet place of the higher mind. You are a unique, powerful, amazing aspect of the Creator God. Grief is so often the catalyst for our greatest growth. At first it is like a warm fuzzy blanket that we wrap around ourselves, because we are in too much pain and we are too afraid to let go of it. When we are strong enough to let it go…like discarding a pair of comfortable old jeans with holes in them, our inner light can shine once again. We can at that point transcend our grief and begin the journey toward merging with our higher self, our soul, and the Creator God. Until one is ready to discard the blanket of grief, they are being protected and watched and loved by many of us. It is a process dear one, and all will release when they are ready to do so. Satisfy yourselves for now with the knowledge that your loved ones are safe. They are existing in their multidimensional state as ALL THAT THEY ARE….it is a beautiful sight to behold, indeed. It is true that …Read More
SIGN UP for my newsletter!
Stay informed of upcoming classes, retreats, special messages from Spirit and zoom get-togethers.